It’s Alright to Cry

Mother and daughter

When babies are frustrated and scared, they try to grab their little ears with their tiny hands. The baby opens and closes his hands next to his ear, scratching the edges of his earlobe while crying and wailing. Babies do this in an attempt to show their annoyance with their surroundings, and eventually they will be rocked, fed, or taken out of a room. This is because crying is a biological advantage that humans use to communicate with each other. It isn’t a weakness, but a way to convey when we are hurt or something is wrong.

The stigma of crying amongst teenagers

There are many angry teens who are afraid to cry because they see it as a weakness. While anger and irritation may be involved, often there is more going on under the surface than meets the eye. Because of the stigma against crying at that age, and the fear of being seen as weak, many teenagers begin to bury their feelings as a way to avoid negative emotions. However, these negative feelings can come out in other ways, such as disruptive and destructive behavior.

Encouraging honest emotions

Encouraging the girls at Trinity to show full emotion is only part of the daily duties a field staff will offer. When teenagers are frustrated, sad, or scared, they will sometimes think it easier to attempt to avoid reality, and pretend that their feelings do not exist. When a feeling of discomfort takes over, anger can often show as a result of sadness or frustration, and can affect those around the angry or irritable person. However, pushing down emotions can turn into a waiting game for the moment a “blow up” will happen. It is easy to understand how someone would rather not cry. However, the release that crying gives is a far better choice than stuffing the feeling deep down.